As a general rule in criminal thinking group settings I stay away from asking “why” questions. “Why” questions usually lead to excuses and additional criminal thinking errors. Asking, “how” or “what” questions is a good rule of thumb.
- How is the thinking error we just read harmful?
- How have you used the thinking error in the last 24 hours?
- What part of the article made sense to you?
- How can you use this information to change?
- What are some good ways you can deter this thinking error?
- How has this thinking error been harmful in your life?
- What has the ripple effect of this thinking error been in your life?
Be ready for someone to say they can’t relate to the thinking error. Or they may say it doesn’t make sense or they don’t have this problem. Instead of trying to convince them that they have the error or getting into a power struggle, I would say,
“Wow, this is exactly why this group is important. Everyone has these thinking errors at one or another time in their life so if you can’t see it you are in the right place!”
I would then ask,“Would you like to know how you have used this error in thinking?” If they say, “no,” I would point the type of error in that thinking, closed channel thinking, and use it as an example of why the group is important to the change process. On the other hand, if they say “yes, I would like to know how I have used it,” I would ask other group members to give an example of how this group member has used the error, and/or give them an assignment to figure it out for themselves by the next group session.
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