The Solitary Confinement of Responsibility

Solitary confinement of responsible livingResponsible living to the criminal thinker is akin to solitary confinement. The perceived boredom and lack of excitement in a responsible life is worse than the possibility of jail or prison. The Bureau of Justice Statistics shows that most criminals continue to re-offend after release from prison. This fact gives credence to the assertion that responsibility is an arduous pursuit. Criminal thinkers are unwilling to do anything they perceive as boring or disagreeable and responsible living is high on the boring list! The criminal thinker has a life long history of avoiding activities that require effort. Their aversion to delaying gratification is similar to the addictive behavior of an addict.

In treatment programs, where responsible behavior is expected and rewarded, the criminal thinker will continue their irresponsible thinking and behavior even towards responsible goals. A criminal thinker will cheat on tests while attempting to complete a GED. They will cut corners on house chores and attempt to manipulate staff even when there is no apparent reason to do so. If there is no immediate benefit for doing the right thing, positive behavior will be abandoned in favor of whatever is most expedient.

Changing the long pattern of irresponsible living is one of the most challenging aspects of recovery from criminal thinking. In order to begin living responsibly the criminal thinker must act-as-if they want to live a responsible life. The act-as-if mode is a pattern of behavior that is required for changing several key thinking errors. Since there is no initial internal motivation to live responsibly, it is most effective to take on the attitude and behavior of someone who does want to change. The resistant offender will complain that we are suggesting that they “live a lie” with this approach. But, it is better to live a lie and do no harm than to live the truth [of criminal thinking] and return to jail!

Although the cognitive-behavioral approach to change implicitly begins with thoughts influencing behavior, behaviors can also influence thinking especially when one is not intrinsically motivated to do the right thing. By changing ones behavior to coincide with a responsible life the benefits of change will eventually be revealed.

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About Brian Loebig

Owner of, author of, and part-time Technology Manager for the Alliance for Performance Excellence, Brian has over 15 years of experience working in the quality improvement, human services and technology fields as an administrator and consultant. Brian has also worked as a practitioner and administrator in the corrections, substance abuse and human services fields with a special emphasis on technology. He continues to work with numerous community-based non-profits as a web technology consultant, board member and volunteer. Feel free to .
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5 Responses to The Solitary Confinement of Responsibility

  1. Lisa Wascher says:

    The description of errors in thinking of the criminal mind is remarkably similar to those of the narcissist

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  3. If I may share, I don’t think it’s boredom or lack of excitement. I think it’s fear of responsibility. It is boring when compared to constant chaos, but fear of the unknown is human and I believe they feel it. They won’t admit it. Boredom and rebellion better suit their unbreakable image of themselves. They are terrified and will deny fear with rage and vehemence.

    I’ve see a look on their face, a moment of fear can be seen in their eyes, then it’s gone in a flash… replaced by resolve to not be weak and never surrender. To me, it feels like holding onto someone hanging off the edge of a cliff and you see that look in their eyes, before they let go.

    Fear of failure, fear of the unknown, loss of control… an intense darkness. I’ve felt it, but have trouble comprehending, much less explaining it. All the same, I remember it and it is the most frightening thing I’ve ever faced, said one who has lived with many and knows too many.

    Thank you for listening.

  4. Criminal thinking … I don’t watch much television, but watched Criminal Minds within the past year. It’s entertainment, but when my spouse learned I had watched it, he got an uncomfortable look on his face. Until then, I was unaware he had a criminal mind, in that sense. In my mind, this is a huge mountain of red flags.

    We are separated and will stay that way, but we have a child together. There are no professionals of any kind (outside your field maybe) in my state equipped to deal with such topics, so I am left to do my own information gathering/profiling/decisions. That is how I came to be here.

    Thank you for sharing. I appreciate any and all insight.

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